Harvey Weinsteining

First of all let me tell you who Harvey Weinstin is for those that do not know. Per Wikipedia,  Harvey is an American film producer and former film studio executive. He co-founded Miramax, which produced several popular independent films including Pulp Fiction, Clerks, The Crying Game, and Sex, Lies, and Videotape.^[1] He won an Academy Award for producing Shakespeare in Love, and garnered seven Tony Awards for producing a variety of winning plays and musicals, including The Producers, Billy Elliot the Musical, and August: Osage County.^[2]    

Harvey is also a pervert. Harvey likes to touch women without their consent and take their cookies. Harvey was able to get away with this for decades. Decades y'all! The New York Times wrote an article and exposed him this week and now old Harvey has entered a treatment facility. I guess getting away with sexual assault all these years is stressful.

^{His list of transgressions is like the who's who of Hollywood Rose McGowan, Gwyneth Paltrow, Angelina Jolie, Rosanna Arquette, Mira Sorvino just to name a few. More women are coming forward since the article was published. Brad Pitt acknowledged that he contacted Harvey about his inappropriate behavior concerning Gwyneth at the time because they were dating. They dated in 1996, 21 years ago. WTF?! This is what happens when we are worried about the backlash more than the safety of others. Worried about never working in Hollywood again let him get away with this shit for years. We all know Harv the Perv is not alone in this egregious behavior. Some of us are walking around here holding on to secrets protecting men in our neighborhoods and family right now. This has to stop! We have to start promoting a better culture of respect for the victim. Right now an accusation comes out and you will see comments and hear whispers of things "she" did or things "she" should have not done. Really?!!!! So some bastard attacks me and I am the one that should have done something to prevent it? How about his ass should know that he shouldn't be out here being a damn predator and learn how to control his urges. Oh and Lord forbid a male comes out and says he has been abused. He is made to feel inferior and less than. Let the gay jokes begin...}

What are we doing wrong? What are we not teaching our children? What do we need to do? Whatever it is, we need to start doing something about it now. We need to be letting our children know its okay to tell someone when they are feeling uncomfortable with something. Its ok to tell someone no or don't touch me. Stop making kids hug people. Hugs should be natural and forcing them on people to be polite isn't polite to the one being made to do the hugging. Oh and please stop telling them to give folks sugar. Stop it! Affection should be natural and making them give affection ain't natural. Listen to your kids when they are telling you they do not want to go over someone's house for whatever reason. If they used to beat you to the car to go to Uncle June Bug house before and now they cry when you mention his name...

We just have to do better, We have to start having these conversations more. Have you spoke to your kids about these things? Have you told your kids its safe to talk to you about anything? I started talking to my kids at a very young age. I never want my kids to go through what I went through. I did not feel like I could tell anyone and I carried that secret with me into adulthood so I know that burden. I know that fear and I wish that on no one. We have to make our kids way more comfortable and fearless than we were. We have to also teach our boys to keep their hands to themselves. We forever harping at girls about lady like behavior but are we teaching our boys to be gentlemen. Are we? Are we telling them how uncomfortable we are when men are catcalling and grabbing us in public? Are we telling them that when a girl says no, it means no? Or are we letting Future raise them?

I know we can't stop sexual abuse but we can decrease the number of victims by exposing the victimizers and supporting the victims. We can not let men nor women be out here Harvey Weinsteining....