ORGANiZED FOOLiSHNESS: Keep Yo Hands To Yo Self, Part 1

Yeah. It's all grammatically incorrect and I know it. This is a blanket apology going forth. There will be expletives. Sorry Mom.

But this isn't about my lazy grammar, this is about an increase in domestic violence and why women have to repeatedly be beaten within inches of their lives and/or die and there's still no change.

This is about what seems to be the norm in the male/female dynamic in society.

This is about why men feel so inclined and like it's a constitutional right to raise their hands to women, to verbally, mentally and emotionally abuse women.

This is about why women seem to be indispensable.

This is about why we are constantly preaching to, judging, downing and disowning women who have been and maybe still are apart of a domestic violence situation.

This is about blaming the women for staying or leaving and returning.

This is about shaming the women who found themselves victim to an unstable creature one or thirty times.

This is about the people around said woman that asks her "what did you do?" "why do you make him angry?" "If only you would..."

This is about how society seeks to put the blame on everyone but the mf'er responsible for the violence.

Excuse me, O Perfect One that walks on water, but who the f**k are you? AND WHY ARE YOU NOT SHAMING, BLAMING AND RUNNING OFF THE MAN???

Listen ladies. There is nothing, short of trying to harm or kill a man, NOTHING that you could EVER do, to bring violence to yourselves. YOU ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS ACTIONS. Period. Any man that raises his fist at a woman is a punk. Plain and simple. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him being coddled and babied and people covering for all his shortcomings.

That's just how he is.
Don't make him mad.
You shouldn't do that.
That will set him off.
He just needs to walk it off.

Nah Sis aka Apologists, he needs some f**king help!!

Sounds like he should've been getting help from our all but non-existent mental health system. Those things need to be addressed, will not just go away and need to be handled before turning that menace loose on society. Keeping him in that back room is not doing you or anyone else any favors.

HE NEEDS HELP!

If you've never been in it, you have NO IDEA how hard it is to get out. You can't imagine the emotional and psychological damage that stays around for years IF she survives it. And that's granted, there were no underlying and residual issues from her past already. Women are literally dying to leave their abusive partners. We have GOT to have a better support system in place for women that decide to leave their partners outside of nasty looks, disdain, and bundles of shame for "getting herself in that predicament" in the first place. Women who find themselves in these situations are NOT weak. But you know who is? Whoever is abusing her. We need to protect the abused and not the abuser.

Let me type that again so that the people in the back can see and hear it:

WE NEED TO PROTECT THE ABUSED AND NOT THE ABUSER!!
WE NEED TO PROTECT THE ABUSED AND NOT THE ABUSER!!
WE NEED TO PROTECT THE ABUSED AND NOT THE ABUSER!!
WE NEED TO PROTECT THE ABUSED AND NOT THE ABUSER!!
WE NEED TO PROTECT THE ABUSED AND NOT THE ABUSER!!

He's always sorry.
He absolutely will do it again.
You don't have to stick around to see if he means it.
He does not love you.
He does not value you.
He does not respect you.

In the middle of writing this, the Roy Moore and continuation of "Weinsteining" has emerged. So, y'all are really going to justify his behavior using Biblical references? And you're okay with this? And you can look in the mirror and sleep at night? That's really...uh Satanic. I don't know any other word to use for it. It's blasphemous. It's disheartening. It's sick, twisted and perverted. Anyone supporting Ray Gimme A Lil Moore amid these allegations and justifying them "as a sign of the times" or whatever nonsense that you want to brainwash the world with, needs to join him in whatever punishment comes from this. Even if it's just exposure. I don't know the statute of limitations on these allegations and whatever is going on and has been going on here in Alabama and in Hollywood but there need to be repercussions. It's been going on way too long and swept under the rug way too often.

And you wonder why people wait so long to tell. Because y'all are hell on a victim. His or her WHOLE life is brought into question but never the actions that may have resulted from the wrong done to him or her. He or she is called everything from a liar to a gold digging opportunist. He or she gets harassed via phone, text, social media and in person. They don't get the love and support that they should get. And if he was the breadwinner and/or you moved in with him, you're now either homeless or couch hopping. And if you have kids? Forget about it. It's not impossible but it's hard uprooting children from place to place, pillar to post, couch to car to couch...

*sigh*

We need to do better. So much better. Her leaving should be a celebration. She should have somewhere to go. She should have a warm bed. And counseling. And hugs. And support. The kids need it too. No matter what situation Mom or Dad find themselves in, the kids should be protected and safe. Kids shouldn't die trying to protect their parent from abuse. They shouldn't witness it. They see it and think that it's normal. They won't know any better until they see better. So they will emulate what they see and possibly begin their own cycle of abuse. And that could range from beating their significant other to drugs to escape the images in their heads and their own processing of what they are seeing.

We have protected abusers for far too long. I know of stories of prominent men in different cities that could beat their wives and girlfriends and the police, knowing them, would just take them for a ride for a little while to let them cool off. No charges. What happens when she stops calling the police? What happens when she just gives up? Every person deals with abuse differently. It may make some strong, it will make some numb, it will make some weak and some will go around just feeling dead inside. Feeling like it's their fault, abusing herself. Feeling like she's unsafe. All of this is valid and we should not project our feelings about how we feel about what happened onto the victim. Or Survivor.

When you recognize these tendencies in someone in your family, friends and/or close circle or you KNOW it to be true, be the voice for that person to get help. Be relentless. Don't give in, don't give up and don't give them a pass. You may just save a life.