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Wednesday, August 23, 2017

Who The Hell Are We Preparing For?




I've never thought of this for real until I read it last night. After reading it I began to wonder - who the hell are we preparing for? Male and Female Motivational Speakers make it a point to cater to the women. Conferences are full of women, both secular and non-secular. Women are the backbones and keep things running. Women run this. I get it. But if these messages are only catering to and specifically for women, empowering women, supporting women, filtered for women then who the hell are we preparing to live life with? Ourselves?

A lot of times these "speakers" are in no way qualified to be doling out advice. They put a few empowerment quotes together that sound good, a few soundbites and they get the women fired up! Change! Know Your Worth! You Don't Have To Take His Shit! You Are Strong! You Are Independent!



So umm...what are we getting fired up about again? To co-exist with...other women? What I'm saying is, if no one is teaching and reaching the men on this particular subject, if no one is drilling in their brains the importance of finding a wife, settling down, taking care of home, if no one is teaching boys to respect women, what to look for in women, if no one is teaching boys to grow up and be men and to be head of household and if no one has placed value on a woman and what he should look for, then what is this all for? What's the prize? A "woke" female with all this knowledge and empowerment sitting in a rocking chair on her front porch surrounded by her 20 cats...waiting for a man to recognize all the things she's heard over the years



Beyonce snuck this jewel by this Jewel into her Flawless song that makes so much sense on this topic. We are teaching the women and neglecting the men...





We teach girls to shrink themselves
To make themselves smaller
We say to girls
"You can have ambition
But not too much
You should aim to be successful
But not too successful
Otherwise you will threaten the man"
Because I am female
I am expected to aspire to marriage
I am expected to make my life choices
Always keeping in mind that
Marriage is the most important
Now marriage can be a source of
Joy and love and mutual support
But why do we teach to aspire to marriage
And we don't teach boys the same?
We raise girls to each other as competitors
Not for jobs or for accomplishments
Which I think can be a good thing
But for the attention of men
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings
In the way that boys are
Feminist: the person who believes in the social
Political, and economic equality of the sexes


Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. 

Her full speech will be featured in the next story. Read about her...







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